How do you know youre gay

My wife and I spoke last night about for about 10 mins, no yelling no shouting. If you end up at a stage where there's an opportunity to make plans, put it off! Being gay is also not considered a mental disorder or abnormality. Does that make a minor or bigger difference in loving a certain sex? Can you be mostly attracted to one gender, but have one person that just breaks that? Before I left I had told her that my phone would be on and she could call anytime if she needed it. Everything's different; choices are different.